Ever said to someone “You can’t tell me what to do!”, or at least thought about saying it?
Hmmm, me too.
It’s the rebellious streak in me; you too probably.
It’s been one of the most powerful drivers in my life.
I have broken all the rules this last week when it comes to having an online business.
I didn’t write a blog post, didn’t write any articles on LinkedIn, and didn’t put out any offers to my audience.
And in times such as we are facing globally with this COVID-19 ‘outbreak’ this could be seen as business suicide, or simply respecting people.
But I can tell you, it was neither.
I have been researching and writing a biography for an incredible lady who I have just started working with.
Her story is inspiring, and I am honoured she has chosen to work with me so she can share her story with the world.
I’ve been having some powerful coaching myself, releasing some deeply buried trauma and beliefs which have been holding me back in life.
For some, the idea that I have been held back is non-sensical, and somewhat scary; because if I have been held back, then what on earth have they been doing!?
But what on earth does any of this have to do with being told what to do?
Well, getting organised on the 10 Week Mastermind I am currently taking part in and getting present to what’s needed for the next level of my business, I have noticed a lack of ‘call to actions’ and ‘freebies.
Give aways for you all so you share your email address with me, an exchange of powerful and inspiring content for your email address.
An email address I will then use to let you know of exisiting and future content; a fair exchange.
And here’s the thing… you knew there was one coming ;)
I am someone who never pays attention to the calls to action. I don’t need others to tell me what to do.
I don’t do what others tell me to do, I do what feels right for me.
I also know the tricks behind the freebies and don’t want my inbox filled with emails I am never going to read.
Being ‘manipulated’ into giving over my email address in exchange for a freebie I am most likely never going to get around to using, and then have a sales pitch given to me at the end, is also not my bag.
But are we really being manipulated to hand over our email address? No, not really; and it’s not like we are all being held to ransom with a gun to our heads either.
We freely hand over our email addresses to those who we know give value, and I know I give a lot of great value in my content.
Yep, it’s all written content; I am an author, writing is what I do.
I have a huge library of video content, and as I build my team, I am getting present to just how much gold there is in my content; and how much of a positive impact it has had on 10,000’s of people.
So the time has come for me to start sharing this content with the world even more, start increasing the number of people on my email list, and make sure they are getting the content they are looking for.
Like I said above, I have never been big on responding when people tell me what to do, not even doctors.
I challenge the thinking of everything, and not to be difficult, but because I am a curious person.
I want to know how things work.
I like figuring things out.
I am a puzzler, so is there any wonder I am a coach and do the work I do, and read the books I read?
I’ve learnt to keep my social circle small, and yet highly efffective and increasingly profitable.
During times like these with the COVID-19 hysteria facing the world,I have questionned what is really going on, on a much larger scale.
Everyone is being told to stay indoors, and so many people are resisting it. They are resisting being told to stay indoors with the family they have chosen for themselves.
Parents are resisting being at home with their children, something I really don’t understand, esepcially as I love being with my children.
And part of the inner work I have been doing over the last few months is getting present to the fact my boys will never come and live with me again. Yes, they will stay with me, but they will never live with me again.
They are making different choices for themselves the older they get, and part of me has regretted starting this journey so early on in their lives, but I had to.
Like my youngest says “Mummy, you just got to go do you”. Wise words from such as young man and just how much of it is he really able to truly understand? Only time will tell.
Understanding this realisation, and then going on to ask what is truly possible for me, my business and future has opened up a lot more possibilities for me.
What is truly possible for any of us?
None of us like being told what to do, but then so many of us allow others to tell us what to do.
Religion, society, the military, the governments, partners, parents and choices our inner child made based on limited information we had as children.
Our 6 and 7 year old selves are ruling our lives, and yet many of us are not aware of it.
We rise up against governments, the police and justice systems, against corruption and we resist the rules others made up for us.
“They don’t know me, so who are they to tell me what to do?” is something both you and I have said many times over, and not just inside our own heads either.
Watching the world go by outside my window, pretending to go to the shops with their shopping bags and just walking around the block as many times as they can, obeying but breaking the rules set by the Argentinian Government, has been amusing and an interesting obsevation of human bahviour.
Seeing governments and police forces implement and issue fines and jail sentences to those who go against the governments instructions has reminded me of the Egyptian Uprising and the Scotland Saga in so many ways.
Dictatorships are on the rise, and due to the fear of the COVID-19 virus, a lot of people are just simply accepting what the governments are telling them to do.
Many of us thought leaders don’t need others to tell us what to do, we just get on and do what we feel called to do, hence why adding a call to action has always felt alien to me.
I have never needed someone to tell me what to do, I just know what I need to do and get on with it. I ask for what I want.
If someone puts out an offer to share their content and I want it, paid for or free, I let them know I want it.
How many of you ask for what you want? How many of you are good at telling people what you don’t want?
What about the boundaries you have set in place; if you have any?
Are they the boundaries, pacts, promises and choices you are making now, or are they from your childhood, your teenage years, or even your early twenties?
Do you even know?
As of next week, many of the programmes I have been offering on a 1:1 basis will be released as automated courses, meaning I can serve more people around the world, and respond to the variety of budgets and time schedules people have.
It also means I can focus my energies on writing the next three series of books I am writing, as well as launch my long awaited Leadership Mastermind. It’s been 20 years in the making, and now feels like the right time to launch it.
Spending a week working ON myself and my business rather than being IN it, has given me a lot of clairty. I may have broken all the social media rules, but they are not my rules, so not important.
And as I tell my boys “smart people don’t follow stupid rules”
OK, so some of the rules are not stupid, but may do not apply to us, and it does allow them to explore the rules they are being asked to follow and choose for themselves.
I will leave you now with these questions to explore:
- Which of the rules I currently live by apply to me?
- Have they ever applied to me?
- Can I be the person I wish to be by following these rules?
- How are these rules positively impacting my purpose and humanity?
- What rules am I consciously choosing to live by moving forward?
Let me know how you get on with them using the contact form if you wish to, and remember, when we live to laugh and laugh to live, we get to release all the things holding us back in life.
So go live your life, go laugh until your belly aches, and live life on your own terms.
You’ll be glad you did!
Ciao for now x