When the game changed…

When the game changed for you, what was it that made you finally take action?

What were the emotions and thoughts going through your body and your mind?

Whatever they were, they were powerful enough for you to know that life could not continue on the trajectory it was heading; without serious consequences.

Isn’t it sad that it takes something so painful, shocking or traumatic for so many of us to ‘wake up and smell the coffee’?

I knew the moment I set foot onboard Bark Europa for my Atlantic Ocean crossing, life would never be the same again.  It was either going to go ‘tits up’ or better than I could ever imagine.

Making the choice to invest in my next level of seamanship education, working on my next series of books and completing the next leg of my global book tour promoting my books was a HUGE step for me; and it had nothing to do with being out on the ocean for three months.

You see, for many of us trust is something that has been broken time and time again.  It has become our most prized possession, our most valued commodity, and we keep people at a distance for a whole plethora of reasons.

Abuse, betrayal, secrecy, fear; they are all part and parcel of why we don’t trust others.

For me, learning to trust others, was more about learning to trust myself, to trust myself, to trust others. Yes, you read that right, and no the repitition isn’t a mistake.

Learning to trust our own instincts, and learning to trust people at their word, can be a huge challenge for many of us; especially when it comes to women trusting other women.

And especially when it comes to our businesses, our livelihoods, the security of our family’s future.

Having had businesses with my ex-husband and fellow entrepreneurs in the past, embarking on a business venture by myself took a lot of soul searching.  A trust and a faith in myself that “I could do this!”

I always knew I would have a hugely successful business, measured on my own terms of success, not others.

I was confident in my abilities to run a business, but when I became a single parent, this was when the game changed for me the first time.

And I mean REALLY changed.

I was a lone wolf.  Trust went out the window, and yet I was determined to make my business a success.

Curve ball after curve ball, I managed to perfect the swing of the bat and knock them all for six, but deep down I was still unable to trust others to help me grow my business.

Why?

Because I still didn’t trust myself.

I questioned everybody, not just who they were and who they claimed to be, but their track records, the recommendations, and the motives behind their motives; the ones they were not even aware of.

Major paranoia set in, and I had to start a much deeper healing process.  It wasn’t enough to grunt and groan in the dojo during martial arts workout, expelling all the negative energy, I had to go deeper.

Hiring a VA was a big deal, especially as I had to give her passwords and access to emails and social media accounts for her to do her work.

The trust trigger went into overload and another round of inner healing had to take place.

A few months in, and although I thoroughly enjoyed this woman’s humour and drive, she started telling me what I needed to do to be successful.

Er…. I don’t think so love!

There was no way she was going to tell me how to run my business, THIS WAS MY BUSINESS!

Embarking on another journey was when the game changed again.  This time it was a more positive experience.

I met people on this 12 week online programme who got me, and 5 years later some of us are still cheering each other on and supporting each other.

One of the most beautiful things about joining a global online community of fellow learners is the friendships you make along the way, not just the insights, ‘a-ha! moments’ and awakenings along the way.

Realising many of us had similar experiences, struggles and blockages made us all feel more confident, and we knew we were no all alone and feeling like we didn’t get it, or not moving fast enough.

We were all where we were supposed to be and in the right place for all these lessons to take place; we had to trust the process.

And there was that 5 letter ‘T’ word raising it’s dangerous little head again.

You see, when we are on a journey of growth, of becoming the very best version of self, we get present to what it is that triggers something deep inside of us.

These places deep inside of us which have us respond aggressively, or run away from the things which make us uncomfortable, need healing; and it is only when we allow ourselves to heal from these deep wounds that we can really start to accelerate in all areas of life.

Crossing the Atlantic for me was like crossing the finish line of a long journey, one I knew once I had passed it, I would be ready to go to the next level.

I believed I had the right people on my team.  I had trusted them to honour their words, the ones they spoke to me, and put out there into the world.

I was confident that I would return to land and my business would be in a stronger position.

Unfortunately it wasn’t.

In fact, for the very first time in 21 years I experienced what it was like to not have made a sale in my businesses.

I felt like the wind had well and truly been knocked from my sails.

A track record of 21 years broken because I had trusted the wrong people with my business.

And what happened… yep, you guess it, that 5 letter word came back to haunt me and I had to go deeper into why I had trusted the wrong people.

Looking back now, just 5 months on, I have learnt some very valuable lessons, and I know these people came into my life to show me where the gaps were in my business, as well as my own leadership and responsibility.

My savings may have been almost wiped out, and the fund I’d created for an emergency flight and accomodation back in the UK to see my boys gone over night, but the learning has been valuable.

My savings are building again, the UK emergency fund is almost what it was and a new team has been built.

The global book tour is still underway and even though here in South America we are still in quaratine for being healthy, with no news on when the borders are to reopen on land or sea, I am more excited about the future than ever.

My goal of publishing 11 books in 2020 is still on target, three of which will be written by me and the others will be books written by my clients.

The new name for my publishing company has been sorted, and will publish books other publishers consider ‘too hot to handle’, gifting authors with a powerful story to make a huge difference in the world a platform and community to thrive in.

The Trilogy of Life Itself is having a make over and being released on even more platforms making it easier for everyone to get their hands on a copy of each one.

My first biography about an incredible woman who is leading the way and ignoring all the rules by simply being herself will be released in the next couple of months; so my laptop has had a hammering and my hands are ready for a full on manicure I can tell you!

With four online courses being launched in the next month, all designed with business owners and  budding authors in mind, I am making sure my business never has a break in the sales cycle ever again.

You see when the game changed for me, it changed in such a powerful way, one that lit a fire under my arse and made me rethink the people in my life, the way I do business, and the way I show up.

I didn’t embark upon this journey away from my boys and two fur babies to waste my time and not achieve everything I set out to do.  My boys are watching, and for me, that is the most powerful call to action I will ever have.

So I invite you, right now, to consider when the game changes for you, what will that look like? What would need to happen for you to take action like never before? And can you simply choose to take that action now, before it’s too late?

And as always, if you want to have a call with me to see what’s possible, then all you have to do is click on this link and book an appointment.

And if you are a woman who wants to dive in and take action right now, sign up for the Phoenix Rising: 21 Day Challenge which has just been lauched.

It is designed with the focused and driven woman in mind who wishes to alchemise a certain idea into reality, whether it is a new business, a community project, a house move or a global movement.

Maybe you are recently single and need to create a new vision for your future, whatever you want, this 21 Day Challenge is guaranteed to get you moving, provided you play full out and show up for yourself each and every day.

It’s already proven to create EPIC results in the lives of the women who have taken part, and the lives of those who these ladies are working with.

So again, I ask you, think back to when the game changed for you last time and consider what was it that made you finally take action?

Are you going to allow yourself to go there again, albeit it in a different way, or are you going to take action now?

 

How writing changes the world

Discovering fire was a game changer for humanity, but have you ever really considered how writing changes the world?

And can change your world?

From cave drawings, to fossilised communications, to ‘ugg uggs’ around the newly discovered campfire, humans have always communicated.

We see it now with the look of love between parent and child, lover to lover and from the way we treat our own bodies; all communications, and all changing the way in which the world is evolving.

Before the invention of writing as we know it today, Ancient Egyptians would use hieroglyphics to tell stories.

For some of us the energetic language of light is also a powerful communication tool. For some of us, this last sentence has us frowning. Language of light?  What on earth is that?

As communities, we have passed on stories, lessons and legends, of our ancestors and about our lives, and daily happenings for millenia.

But what stories do we tell today?

Parents reading to their children is becoming a lost art, and when was the last time three and four generations of family sat together around the table over a meal, sharing their weekly news with one another?

We lose ourselves in fantasy, with many adults reading children’s books just to escape the world of ‘adulting’ because they are tired of it all.

Great quality adult books are sadly lacking, unless of course you want to read the latest love story, or escape into the mind of a cop or a killer, with crime novels becoming a cop out (pun intended) and vampire stories leaving you wanting to roll your eyes louder than a two year old throwing a tantrum.

Humans by our very nature are explorers, seekers of the new and exciting.

It is why so many want a quick fix for the depression they face, or a quick fix to the pain they are enduring, or that latest pair of Jimmy Choo’s or Louboutin’s.

We want the high.

We want our mind, body and souls stimulated, but so many take the easy route; and then wonder why there is no long lasting fulfillment.

Many women inject all kinds of poisons into their face wanting to slow down the ageing process, afraid of who they are becoming, unable to accept who they truly are.

It is all communication.

Some of it more explicit than others, but still communication all the same.

Before we had writing, stories were contained within our minds and as age set in, unless we had shared them with our young, then they would be lost forever.

One of the reasons I loved living out in Egypt and sitting with the Beladi is because they would still sit around together as a family and drink shay, telling stories and laughing.

Nowadays so many rely on films, or audio books, choosing to occupy their time with other tasks whilst listening, but never really being present in the moment with the words.

The gift of reading an actually physical book is that you get to be still, absorbed in the moment.  Your body gets to rest whilst your mind is captivated by what you read… well that’s the plan of every great author anyway!

To captivate you, to take you on a journey, leaving you with the ever lingering connection to the characters, real or fictional.

And it is this reason I love to work with clients who wish to share their own journey, captivating their audiences both inside and outside of their book with the Author Blueprint they create.

How writing changes the world, depends on whether it is in our journalling, our blogging, the articles we write, the programmes we write for screen, stage and airwaves. 

It depends on the energy we bring to it, the flow, the vision we create, as well as the intention.

When we explore how writing changes the world within us, our families, our audiences and the ripple effect which our writing creates, and will continue to create long after they have left this world, is a powerful exercise.

Whether we are authors of movies, stage shows, books, or stories woven through the airwaves, our writing has a profound affect on everyone.

When we write our stories, we change the world.

When we write our futures into existence with our journalling, we change our own world, and those directly connected to us.

We get to inspire ourselves, release ourselves from the past, and in this magical process we really truly set ourselves free, something no one else can take away from us.

For many right now, not being able to go outside, mix with family and friends, go out wherever they want, whenever they want, they feel their freedom has been taken away; but no one can take away our freedom when we truly accept who we are.

With the onset of writing, the recording of taxes, land and slave ownerships we become enslaved by those who believed they were better than others, far superior, and so the pedestal of arrogance was born in a whole new way.

With this power came political power, famines, droughts, wars of so many kinds.  Those who couldn’t read or write were made to feel worthless, and so came the ever increasing spiral of mental health issues we see today.

In countries where there is political instability and mass poverty, mental health issues are fewer than those in the countries of ‘so-called’ politcial stability.

Around the world, people of all social classes and levels of intellect read something and never question what they read.

Take the regular Terms and Conditions businesses send you for use of their products, pages and pages of legal jargon you can’t understand, but sign anyway.

Dr’s prescribe drugs to people on an hourly basis, and how many people actually look at the ingredients and understand the impact they have on our bodies? 

PhD students research from research papers, which were written from other research papers, and very few PhD students actually go and look at new innovations and go out into the field to do more research.

This results in the information becoming stagnant and overly academic; making many people feel stupid and therefore unwilling to learn, for the fear of looking stupid.

Now why on earth would I, as an author and author coach be highlighting these flaws in the written word?

Well because with writers such as Matt Ridley writing high level science in a way that the lay people can read, and business leaders such as Jim Collins writing business books such as Good to Great, they dymistify the jargon others use to keep others small, and afraid.

Writing is a powerful tool, not just for those reading the words, but also for those writing.  

For me, and other writers, those who do it because we NEED to do it, it is therapeutic.  Why do I say I NEED to do it, because with the way my mind works, if I do not write, I feel heavy, my head becomes foggy, I feel frustrated, it’s almost like I am drowning.

Sometimes the things I write, I write without realising.  I remember starting to write.  I remember the first word, but then I feel like I am just watching myself right, or feel like I am in a trance, and the words just flow. 

I call it Unconscious Conscious Creation. A state of openess, which allows the messages to pass through you from a higher source. 

Which when you think about it, we are the modern day Prophets.  Now before those of you who are deeply religious start wanting to chastise and burn me at the stake for blasphemy, hear me out.

Prophets are merely messengers.  They too went into trance like states to deliver a message from on high.  We are told in EVERY single Holy Text that God, Allah, Dieu, etc is within us.

Christianity and Judaism tell us He breathed life into us.

In Islam we are told that Allah is closer to us than our jugular vein.  In Hinduism we are blessed with God’s eye, our third eye, and so on and so forth.

So it surely stands to reason then, that those of us who are called to write from a higher place of consciousness, and have the ability to unconsciously create powerful content, are simply tapping into our God given gifts?

Gifts of being messengers, of prophecy? Take the books written by Doris Lessing or the cult classic 1984 written by George Orwell, which has been playing out for years, even more so in the last couple of months.

For many of us, the more we learn, the more we question, the more we understand and connect the dots, the more powerful our writing becomes. 

It’s not rocket science or brain surgery, well… it is kind of brain surgery because we are developing parts of our brains and connecting dots and neuropathways which in many ways would never have connected.

When I started reading about Islam, I loved the fact the first world written in the Qur’aan was ‘Ikra’ which for those of you who do not read and understand Arabic means ‘read’. The word ‘wisdom’ is the second most used word in the Qur’aan after Allah, and ranks a lot higher than prayer or charity in all holy texts.

Ask yourself then, why is it those who follow their forefathers of religion blindly never read and question the Holy texts they profess to believe in so much? When they never question what is written, simply follow men in long robes who will send God’s wrath upon them if they even think about thinking about questionning The Book.

Writing a book about your life is one of the most transformational gifts you can give yourself, and the world. 

Why?

Because you get present to who you are.

You get to see how far you have come on your lives journey, the adventures and misadventures, the highs and the lows; and you also get present to who and what is important to you.

You get to gift yourself the ultimate gift of freedom; the freedom of your past, and the freedom of needing other people’s approval of you.

Freedom isn’t about going outside and doing what you want, nor is it being able to sail around the world.  It is BEing who you truly are and being proud of who you are without the need of approval from someone else.

You get the opportunity to leave a sacred text of your ilfe behind for your family, and if you choose to go on to publish and sell it for others, you get to gift others an insight into the human story, and you help others understand they too are not the only ones going through the challenges they are facing.

You gift your readers hope, inspiration and lessons they may never have had; and that in itself could save someone’s life.

And isn’t that a beautiful way to change the world with your writing, the gift of saving someone’s life?

If you woud like to write your own book, but are not sure on how to get started then there are so many options available.

There are hundreds of writing courses, writing coaches and book coaches out there for you to choose from.

If however, you want to use your story, knowledge and expertise to create a positive and profound difference in the world whilst making profit to then re-invest into creating an even bigger impact, then please contact me and let’s see how I as an author coach can support you.

In the meantime, enjoy the words you read, just make sure you choose wisely what you read, because when you read inspiring, informative and great content, then living to laugh and laughing to live becomes a lot easier!

(And healthier!)

Ciao for now my lovelies,

Dawn x

P.S. The photo with this entry is one taken having just been released from a Scottish Police cell after I was held illegally for two and a half days without questionning and without being told what I was being held for. Feeling the wind and the sun on my face that day was such an amazing feeling; and if I felt this after just two and a half days, imagine what it must feel like after two and a half years, or two and a half decades… especially after false imprisonment.

You can read the full story of the #ScotlandSaga in my last book Crossing The Line