Why can’t you just tell the truth?

One of the phrases I used to hear teachers say to pupils back in my teaching days was “Why can’t you just tell the truth?”.

One of the things we long for as parents, and actively encourage, is for our chidren to tell the truth.

In relationships we want the truth.

As employees, we want our bosses to tell us the truth about the future of our jobs.

Those of us who work in coaching, therapy or counselling roles make it clear to our clients that the process will only work if and only if there is complete honesty in the relationship.

So why is it then, when we are faced with someone else’s truth, we shy away or condemn them?

Why is it, we hide who we are, refusing to speak up about the things which matter most to us?

Why do we keep quiet about the things we truly feel?

And why do we allow others to silence us, make us feel as if we are the enemy when we speak our truths?

Over the last few months I have achieved more in my business than ever before.  I have gained more clients, brought on a new team member, invested with a new coach, started the rebranding process of my business and invested in a business mastermind.

I am not telling you these things to brag, but things in the business world are not as scary as you have been led to believe they are.

Yes, some businesses are closing.

Yes, some people are signing on for government handouts and bail outs, but would these people be doing this if they were innovating and investing in themselves, and / or their businesses?

Not at all.

I have yet to meet a business owner in my circle who is going of out business, and I have yet to meet a person in my circle who is being made redundant.


Because we ALL INVEST in ourselves and our businesses.

I have been completely online for over 3 years, have always been at the forefront of bleeding edge technology.

As the first woman to sell touch screens and DVDs into the UK business market, I had to get used to the idea of people looking at me as if I was selling them something that had come from another galaxy.

Times are challenging at the moment for many people, and I have been shocked at the number of lies out there which people are buying into. 

I am surprised at quite a few people in my circle of friends who have started lying to themselves and fooling themselves on so many levels.

People around the world are jumping on the bandwagon of celebrating the medical professionals for the work they are doing, and whilst this is commendable in many ways, it stinks of the hypocrisy I wrote about recently over on my facebook page.

The public are causing so many of their own health problems with the poisons they put in their body with each and every meal, and most of the drinks they consume throughout the day.

Governments around the world have closed the ‘non essential’ stores such as the health food stores, and left open the food delivery places which fill your body with processed this, that and the other; and the beloved white substance more addictive than cocaine, sugar.

Health care professionals, such as dentists, have been made to close their surgeries, leaving those of us who need treatments, operations and dental treatment the only option of purchasing anitbiotics and painkillers.

(Follow the money and where that leads).

Many of you who have been following this blog for a while now will remember how I wrote about needing new teeth following my ocean crossing from mainland Europe to the Canary Islands.

My front teeth need the next level of work doing, and I have an infection which needs to be dealt with.

I have already completed once course of antibiotics, and half way through the next course; and my body has responded in some interesting ways.

You see, I eat and drink clean.

I have not used deodorant in close to 3 years.

Now for many of you that might sound disgusting, but when you consider I work out 6 days out of 7, do not eat processed food, meat or dairy, my body doesn’t excrete the awful smells many of you will experience.

Since taking these antibiotics, I have had to dig out my salt crystal deodorant and start using it again. Ever wondered what truths your body is telling you about the things you eat and drink?

We want people to tell the truth, but the truth of the matter is, very few of us even know our own truth.

Millions of people around the world are obsessed with the “number of people dying because of COVID-19″ and yet we ignore the 500,000 people who die on average each year from human violence, or the 120,000 people who die due to war.

Or how about the 800,000 people who commit suicide due to various mental health issues and the 1.5 million people who die on average each year from diabetes?

These two illnesses are already on the increase due to the quarantine situations around the world, a situation which is making more people feel isolated and left to eat the crap food produced and approved of by the World Health Organisation (WHO) and Food Standards Agencies (FSA) around the world.

(Again, I encourage you to follow the money).

And if you ask me, the FSA’s, WHO, and governments around the world, which allow foods which increase ill health, contain weed killers, rat poisons and increase acidity in our bodies, which is a wonderful breeding ground for cancers by the way, are committing corporate manslaughter right underneath our noses; and yet we happily oblige them with our ignorance.

Why do you think they have been able to pull the wool over our eyes for so long and it has been so easy to roll out the passive aggressive, softly, softly catchy monkey style dictatorships across the ‘developed’ world in the recent months?

When looking at the vast differences in the restrictions being imposed on people around the world, and the reported number of so called COVID-19 deaths, which in my opinion are vastly exaggerated and inflated, as all government statistics have been since the 1100’s in Europe, and back to Pharaonic times in Ancient Egypt, it is as plain as day the corruption within governments and the big pharmas is rife.

Governments have been lying to us all for years, and trying to control us.  If you have read my second book ‘Walaahi’ you’ll have already learnt how I dealt with living under ’emergency’ martial law and curfew during the Egyptian Uprising.

(You’ll also have learnt how I have never allowed any one or anything to stop me, and how you can learn to do the same).

You see, governments only try and control us because they are afraid of what will happen if they don’t.  Fear is the fundamental basis of why anything is controlled.

Fear of a fire spreading.

Fear of wreckless driving.

Fear of freedom and independent speech.

It is why many people ask me “Aren’t you afraid of what might happen to you now you’ve shared what you have in your books?”

The answer is no.  I am not afraid of what will happen to me.

I am more afraid of living a lie and letting my boys down.

When coaching my clients, one of the biggest transformations they have is the ability to own and speak their truth.

Why? because if we are afraid to speak our truth, we hold negative emotions inside of our bodies which lead to ill health and dis-ease.

Speaking my truth may not make me very popular with a lot of people, but it brings the right people into my inner circle, and makes my inner circle a very beautiful and powerful place to be.

It’s not always easy to speak our truth, but considering we want people to tell the truth when in our space, isn’t it about time we started to tell the truth ourselves?

Isn’t it about time we actively seek out the truth, rather than allowing ourselves to be lied to over and over again?

Isn’t it about time we demand the truth from ourselves and our governments, like we as parents and teachers ask the children in our care to tell the truth?

Or are we going to continue to live a life of ignorance and double standards?




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Tell me what to do

Ever said to someone “You can’t tell me what to do!”, or at least thought about saying it?

Hmmm, me too.

It’s the rebellious streak in me; you too probably.

It’s been one of the most powerful drivers in my life.

I have broken all the rules this last week when it comes to having an online business.

I didn’t write a blog post, didn’t write any articles on LinkedIn, and didn’t put out any offers to my audience.

And in times such as we are facing globally with this COVID-19 ‘outbreak’ this could be seen as business suicide, or simply respecting people.

But I can tell you, it was neither.

I have been researching and writing a biography for an incredible lady who I have just started working with. 

Her story is inspiring, and I am honoured she has chosen to work with me so she can share her story with the world.

I’ve been having some powerful coaching myself, releasing some deeply buried trauma and beliefs which have been holding me back in life.

For some, the idea that I have been held back is non-sensical, and somewhat scary; because if I have been held back, then what on earth have they been doing!?

But what on earth does any of this have to do with being told what to do?

Well, getting organised on the 10 Week Mastermind I am currently taking part in and getting present to what’s needed for the next level of my business, I have noticed a lack of ‘call to actions’ and ‘freebies.

Give aways for you all so you share your email address with me, an exchange of powerful and inspiring content for your email address.

An email address I will then use to let you know of exisiting and future content; a fair exchange.

And here’s the thing… you knew there was one coming 😉

I am someone who never pays attention to the calls to action.  I don’t need others to tell me what to do.

I don’t do what others tell me to do, I do what feels right for me.

I also know the tricks behind the freebies and don’t want my inbox filled with emails I am never going to read.

Being ‘manipulated’ into giving over my email address in exchange for a freebie I am most likely never going to get around to using, and then have a sales pitch given to me at the end, is also not my bag.

But are we really being manipulated to hand over our email address? No, not really; and it’s not like we are all being held to ransom with a gun to our heads either.

We freely hand over our email addresses to those who we know give value, and I know I give a lot of great value in my content.

Yep, it’s all written content; I am an author, writing is what I do.

If people want my recorded content, then there are plenty of live interviews and podcasts out there with me in them.

I have a huge library of video content, and as I build my team, I am getting present to just how much gold there is in my content; and how much of a positive impact it has had on 10,000’s of people.

So the time has come for me to start sharing this content with the world even more, start increasing the number of people on my email list, and make sure they are getting the content they are looking for.

Like I said above, I have never been big on responding when people tell me what to do, not even doctors.

I challenge the thinking of everything, and not to be difficult, but because I am a curious person.

I want to know how things work.

I like figuring things out.

I am a puzzler, so is there any wonder I am a coach and do the work I do, and read the books I read?

I’ve learnt to keep my social circle small, and yet highly efffective and increasingly profitable.

During times like these with the COVID-19 hysteria facing the world,I have questionned what is really going on, on a much larger scale.

Everyone is being told to stay indoors, and so many people are resisting it.  They are resisting being told to stay indoors with the family they have chosen for themselves.  

Parents are resisting being at home with their children, something I really don’t understand, esepcially as I love being with my children. 

And part of the inner work I have been doing over the last few months is getting present to the fact my boys will never come and live with me again.  Yes, they will stay with me, but they will never live with me again.

They are making different choices for themselves the older they get, and part of me has regretted starting this journey so early on in their lives, but I had to.

Like my youngest says “Mummy, you just got to go do you”.  Wise words from such as young man and just how much of it is he really able to truly understand? Only time will tell.

Understanding this realisation, and then going on to ask what is truly possible for me, my business and future has opened up a lot more possibilities for me.

What is truly possible for any of us? 

None of us like being told what to do, but then so many of us allow others to tell us what to do.

Religion, society, the military, the governments, partners, parents and choices our inner child made based on limited information we had as children.

Our 6 and 7 year old selves are ruling our lives, and yet many of us are not aware of it.

We rise up against governments, the police and justice systems, against corruption and we resist the rules others made up for us.

“They don’t know me, so who are they to tell me what to do?” is something both you and I have said many times over, and not just inside our own heads either.

Watching the world go by outside my window, pretending to go to the shops with their shopping bags and just walking around the block as many times as they can, obeying but breaking the rules set by the Argentinian Government, has been amusing and an interesting obsevation of human bahviour.

Seeing governments and police forces implement and issue fines and jail sentences to those who go against the governments instructions has reminded me of the Egyptian Uprising and the Scotland Saga in so many ways.

Dictatorships are on the rise, and due to the fear of the COVID-19 virus, a lot of people are just simply accepting what the governments are telling them to do.

Thankfully there are those such as The Mental Mastery Alliance and Steve McNamara who are challenging thought patterns and delivering content outside of the normal realms of thinking.

Many of us thought leaders don’t need others to tell us what to do, we just get on and do what we feel called to do, hence why adding a call to action has always felt alien to me.

I have never needed someone to tell me what to do, I just know what I need to do and get on with it.  I ask for what I want.

If someone puts out an offer to share their content and I want it, paid for or free, I let them know I want it.

How many of you ask for what you want? How many of you are good at telling people what you don’t want?

What about the boundaries you have set in place; if you have any? 

Are they the boundaries, pacts, promises and choices you are making now, or are they from your childhood, your teenage years, or even your early twenties?

Do you even know?

Are you curious to find out? If you are then I am going to invite you to contact me about the programmes and coaching I offer.

As of next week, many of the programmes I have been offering on a 1:1 basis will be released as automated courses, meaning I can serve more people around the world, and respond to the variety of budgets and time schedules people have.

It also means I can focus my energies on writing the next three series of books I am writing, as well as launch my long awaited Leadership Mastermind.  It’s been 20 years in the making, and now feels like the right time to launch it.

Spending a week working ON myself and my business rather than being IN it, has given me a lot of clairty.  I may have broken all the social media rules, but they are not my rules, so not important.

And as I tell my boys “smart people don’t follow stupid rules”

OK, so some of the rules are not stupid, but may do not apply to us, and it does allow them to explore the rules they are being asked to follow and choose for themselves.

I will leave you now with these questions to explore:

  1. Which of the rules I currently live by apply to me?
  2. Have they ever applied to me?
  3. Can I be the person I wish to be by following these rules?
  4. How are these rules positively impacting my purpose and humanity?
  5. What rules am I consciously choosing to live by moving forward?

Let me know how you get on with them using the contact form  if you wish to, and remember, when we live to laugh and laugh to live, we get to release all the things holding us back in life.

So go live your life, go laugh until your belly aches, and live life on your own terms.

You’ll be glad you did!

Ciao for now x