Getting present

Getting present to where you are in life, who you are for others and how you live life is essential.

Yesterday I woke up with a headache, but with an overhaul of this website needed to bring it in alignment with who I am now, the work I do and where I am going, I forged ahead.

Working late into the night, not even realising the time, because I love what I do, I fell asleep with my head still pounding.

This morning I woke up with a migraine, and I realised it was time to get present to what my body was telling me. Get present to everything I have achieved so far this year, especially in the last month.

Arriving home in the UK unannounced was a great surprise for everyone, myself included. Having said that the surprises that followed were intense.

Losing two friends, attending funerals, ending a 3 year relationship with a man I loved deeply, quitting alcohol, becoming vegan to get my body in great shape for the ocean races coming up and sorting out family issues, clearing out my stuff from my old apartment… Lots shifted.

Starting a new coaching relationship with my new coach, coaching new clients and existing ones, and starting the process of launching The Mermaid’s Locker (news on this shortly) I wasn’t giving myself down time. I just do what I normally do, keep moving forward, keep rising and keep smiling.

Leaving my boys, or rather my young men and my dogs this time was harder than when they flew home from New Zealand when I kick-started this ocean journey. I was present to their lifestyle changes, and although I don’t like a lot of them, I know they are old enough to choose for themselves.

I know I have to allow my ex husband to parent the boys in his own way. It may not be my way, and their stanadst of living may not meet mine, but they are his children too; and he has to be the father he chooses to be without my interference. His actions will lead the boys to love and respect him, or they won’t. Like they say, you make your bed, you lie in it.

Leaving the UK I headed to Gibraltar to do my STCW95 and a few other courses to enable me to move forward in my obtaining my RYA Ocean YachtMaster certificate, but arriving in Gibraltar, I didn’t like the energy.

I worked on my business, got things in place, walked around the rock visiting Europa Point Lighthouse, read lots and then left, without completing my STCW95. It just wasn’t the right time. So I headed to Morocco to see my Moroccan family.

Whilst there I allowed myself to grieve, to release, to be loved on, and then carried on working on overhauling this website so you all get a much better experience from visiting and understanding of how I can help and support you, or those you know personally and professionally.

Joining the Women Who Sail The Med group in Facebook, I jumped on and introduced myself. Within hours of joining a fellow ocean nomad and female sailor reached out to me. I had wanted to meet Suzanne van der Veeken because of the journey she is on, and the work she does in this world.

I left Morocco after just a few days, travelling by train across the country so I could cross the Atlantic into Spain. When looking at trains I chose to take a later train than I would have done previously, before getting present to really honouring myself.

On the train I was chatting with a young woman from Saudi Arabia. Explaining why I had so much luggage with me, she was inspired. She enabled me to get even more present to the work I do with women, and just how important my coaching work is, and the books I write.

Shortly after the journey was underway, we were informed there had been a train crash. We were all to leave the train and find alternative transportation.

Heading into the station dealing with the situation, I got present to just how well I speak Arabic, even though Moroccon Arabic is quite different to the Middle Eastern Arabic I speak.

With news of the train accident coming through, and the number of fatalities and seriously injured being reported, I yet again got present. I got present to how lucky I was to escape injury. I also got present to how much my life has changed by simply not rushing, by listening to my body.

With delays running into the next day, I was blessed with the love and support of the family and friends of my Moroccan family rallying around to make sure I was taken care of; as well as the kindness and generosity of fellow travellers.

I went to sleep feeling very blessed and grateful for being alive, a chance to continue with the positive impact I am making in this world.

I arrived in Spain a day later for the Ocean Nomads meet up, which was organised by Suzanne, who is the author of Ocean Nomad, an impressive book on how to hitchhike across the Atlantic, a book I wanted to get my hands on.

We are now living together in Spain, working on our businesses, our projects and raising awareness of the environmental issues affecting our beloved ocean and planet, all whilst looking for our Atlantic Oocean crossing to the Caribbean.

With so much happening, there was no wonder I had a migraine. I have had to process so much. My body is releasing so many toxins by choosing to no longer drink alcohol and for choosing a vegan lifestyle.

My heart is healing from the neglect I allowed myself to be subjected to in the relationship I just ended. My heart is healing from grief of friends passing away.  I am adjusting to not being with the beautiful humans and fur babies I get to be mother to.

I have released so much emotionally with my new coach. Got present to my new business vision, releasing the old version of myself and stepped up to embracing this new version of self.

I have hired a new team member to help me take my businessto the next level, making sure I honour myself and my purpose by focusing on what I am great at…  Positively impacting the world with my coaching, writing and public speaking… Whilst delegating the rest to someone else who is showing up in her passion and purpose.

After resting, I went for a walk along the beach… Of course I did! Getting present yet again to all I have achieved in the last month, the last year and the last five years, and in my life.

I had ‘Pinch me moments’ and expressed so much gratitude for all the opportunities I have had in my life, and for the passion and purpose I live into daily.

And now here I am, able to share my journey with you, which I know continues to inspire so many of you.

If you are ready to live your dream life, getting present to who you really are and your full potential, email me using hello@dawnbates.com and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can.

With so much love and gratitude to you, and for you,

Dawn xx

 

Embracing your inner child

Embracing your inner child, what exactly does that mean?

Does it mean allow yourself to be excited like a child, often being mistaken for being childish?

Does it mean honouring your childhood dreams?

Does it mean wanting or needing a hug in times of sadness; or ‘crying like a baby’?

Does it mean kicking up leaves in autumn or making snowmen in the snow?

Does it mean being silly and giggling like a child, never taking yourself too seriously?

Does it mean allowing the hurt and the pain from when you were a child to rise up and give clarity to what is holding you back?

Does it mean jumping in puddles and giggling like a child?

Does it mean looking at each new experience with childlike wonder and saying “WOW!” either out loud or from deep within your soul?

For me it means all of the above and more; and over the last few weeks embracing my inner child has never been more prominent or necessary.  She has come to the surface laughing, kicking and screaming.

I have giggled, seen the underwater world through my snorkel lens like never before.  I have been transfixed and captivated by the beautiful sunrises and sunsets, the moon rises and moon sets, the ocean in all her colours, and felt so incredibly blessed to be alive.

I’ve had some deeply sad moments mainly relating to being away from my boys, my partner, my parents and my dogs.  I’ve had frustrations around my business results and a huge sense of relief due to the release of my latest book Crossing The Line.

As with all frustrations, sad moments and breakdowns, there is always a breakthrough just around the corner; if you are willing to do the work and understand why the breakdown happened in the first place.

Two days before arriving into Darwin, whilst studying Celestial Navigation with Thomas the owner of Adrienne, I cried my eyes out.  Like a little girl, like a child, and I couldn’t understand why.  Yes, I kept getting parts of it wrong, and yes learning a subject with someone whose first language isn’t English was going to be a challenge for us both, but why the tears? Why was I crying like a child?

I was struggling to understand some of the basics of trigonometry, I kept confusing the GHA (Greenwich Hour Angle) with the declination corrections and I didn’t understand some of the terms he was using, in part because English is not his first language and his Austrian mother tongue and accent was confusing me.

Thomas was patient.  Incredibly so, for which I am truly grateful.  He told me he wasn’t going to quit, which made me like him all the more.  I am no quitter, so I had clearly met the perfect teacher for me.  He asked me why I kept doing it wrong, and I just couldn’t explain; so I looked out to the horizon and started reflecting.

My inner child was stamping her feet, wanting to be heard.  She wanted to make Thomas proud of her.  She didn’t want to let him or me down.  She wanted so badly to get this right because she wanted her dreams to come true.  She wanted to make her mummy proud, and she wanted to understand the stars in the sky which mesmerised her every night before falling asleep.  She wanted to make sense of a world she knew nothing about, because her future depended on it.

When I explained this to Thomas, how important it was for me to understand sailing and celestial navigation, my why, my future dream, he got it.  I explained my dream was to live at sea since I was eight years old, not to become a sailor, sailing was just the means to the end.

I didn’t want to become an astronomer, become a planetary geek or calculate angles and distances, I just wanted to understand and interpret the stars, see their beauty and power, understand why they have such an energetic power over us and our daily lives.  Not many people would get it, but he did.  Thankfully!

Getting present to all of the above, embracing my inner child, acknowledging myself as an eight year old girl was a powerful shift.  I got truly present to what was going on for me, not just in the sailing and celestial navigational studies, but in all the other areas of my life too.  It was powerful, and yes there is still work to be done, but I am now more present than ever to what I need to do, be and have to accomplish all I need to in life to enable my dreams to come true.

I may not have my coach with me when out at sea, but knowing how to coach myself in these moments, knowing how to dig deep and get out of my own way, how to release all my mental, emotional and energetic blocks is so powerful; and one of the reasons I love coaching my own clients.  Seeing them shift, seeing them embrace their inner child and expand in so many ways is a truly magical experience.  It can be awe inspiring, and is one of the reasons I love what I do so much.

So here’s to embracing our inner child, letting them run wild and free, as well as going after our dreams!

With love, as always,

Dawn x

If you would like to sail with Tanja and Thomas, then you can reach them by visiting their website www.adrienne.at