When the game changed…

When the game changed for you, what was it that made you finally take action?

What were the emotions and thoughts going through your body and your mind?

Whatever they were, they were powerful enough for you to know that life could not continue on the trajectory it was heading; without serious consequences.

Isn’t it sad that it takes something so painful, shocking or traumatic for so many of us to ‘wake up and smell the coffee’?

I knew the moment I set foot onboard Bark Europa for my Atlantic Ocean crossing, life would never be the same again.  It was either going to go ‘tits up’ or better than I could ever imagine.

Making the choice to invest in my next level of seamanship education, working on my next series of books and completing the next leg of my global book tour promoting my books was a HUGE step for me; and it had nothing to do with being out on the ocean for three months.

You see, for many of us trust is something that has been broken time and time again.  It has become our most prized possession, our most valued commodity, and we keep people at a distance for a whole plethora of reasons.

Abuse, betrayal, secrecy, fear; they are all part and parcel of why we don’t trust others.

For me, learning to trust others, was more about learning to trust myself, to trust myself, to trust others. Yes, you read that right, and no the repitition isn’t a mistake.

Learning to trust our own instincts, and learning to trust people at their word, can be a huge challenge for many of us; especially when it comes to women trusting other women.

And especially when it comes to our businesses, our livelihoods, the security of our family’s future.

Having had businesses with my ex-husband and fellow entrepreneurs in the past, embarking on a business venture by myself took a lot of soul searching.  A trust and a faith in myself that “I could do this!”

I always knew I would have a hugely successful business, measured on my own terms of success, not others.

I was confident in my abilities to run a business, but when I became a single parent, this was when the game changed for me the first time.

And I mean REALLY changed.

I was a lone wolf.  Trust went out the window, and yet I was determined to make my business a success.

Curve ball after curve ball, I managed to perfect the swing of the bat and knock them all for six, but deep down I was still unable to trust others to help me grow my business.

Why?

Because I still didn’t trust myself.

I questioned everybody, not just who they were and who they claimed to be, but their track records, the recommendations, and the motives behind their motives; the ones they were not even aware of.

Major paranoia set in, and I had to start a much deeper healing process.  It wasn’t enough to grunt and groan in the dojo during martial arts workout, expelling all the negative energy, I had to go deeper.

Hiring a VA was a big deal, especially as I had to give her passwords and access to emails and social media accounts for her to do her work.

The trust trigger went into overload and another round of inner healing had to take place.

A few months in, and although I thoroughly enjoyed this woman’s humour and drive, she started telling me what I needed to do to be successful.

Er…. I don’t think so love!

There was no way she was going to tell me how to run my business, THIS WAS MY BUSINESS!

Embarking on another journey was when the game changed again.  This time it was a more positive experience.

I met people on this 12 week online programme who got me, and 5 years later some of us are still cheering each other on and supporting each other.

One of the most beautiful things about joining a global online community of fellow learners is the friendships you make along the way, not just the insights, ‘a-ha! moments’ and awakenings along the way.

Realising many of us had similar experiences, struggles and blockages made us all feel more confident, and we knew we were no all alone and feeling like we didn’t get it, or not moving fast enough.

We were all where we were supposed to be and in the right place for all these lessons to take place; we had to trust the process.

And there was that 5 letter ‘T’ word raising it’s dangerous little head again.

You see, when we are on a journey of growth, of becoming the very best version of self, we get present to what it is that triggers something deep inside of us.

These places deep inside of us which have us respond aggressively, or run away from the things which make us uncomfortable, need healing; and it is only when we allow ourselves to heal from these deep wounds that we can really start to accelerate in all areas of life.

Crossing the Atlantic for me was like crossing the finish line of a long journey, one I knew once I had passed it, I would be ready to go to the next level.

I believed I had the right people on my team.  I had trusted them to honour their words, the ones they spoke to me, and put out there into the world.

I was confident that I would return to land and my business would be in a stronger position.

Unfortunately it wasn’t.

In fact, for the very first time in 21 years I experienced what it was like to not have made a sale in my businesses.

I felt like the wind had well and truly been knocked from my sails.

A track record of 21 years broken because I had trusted the wrong people with my business.

And what happened… yep, you guess it, that 5 letter word came back to haunt me and I had to go deeper into why I had trusted the wrong people.

Looking back now, just 5 months on, I have learnt some very valuable lessons, and I know these people came into my life to show me where the gaps were in my business, as well as my own leadership and responsibility.

My savings may have been almost wiped out, and the fund I’d created for an emergency flight and accomodation back in the UK to see my boys gone over night, but the learning has been valuable.

My savings are building again, the UK emergency fund is almost what it was and a new team has been built.

The global book tour is still underway and even though here in South America we are still in quaratine for being healthy, with no news on when the borders are to reopen on land or sea, I am more excited about the future than ever.

My goal of publishing 11 books in 2020 is still on target, three of which will be written by me and the others will be books written by my clients.

The new name for my publishing company has been sorted, and will publish books other publishers consider ‘too hot to handle’, gifting authors with a powerful story to make a huge difference in the world a platform and community to thrive in.

The Trilogy of Life Itself is having a make over and being released on even more platforms making it easier for everyone to get their hands on a copy of each one.

My first biography about an incredible woman who is leading the way and ignoring all the rules by simply being herself will be released in the next couple of months; so my laptop has had a hammering and my hands are ready for a full on manicure I can tell you!

With four online courses being launched in the next month, all designed with business owners and  budding authors in mind, I am making sure my business never has a break in the sales cycle ever again.

You see when the game changed for me, it changed in such a powerful way, one that lit a fire under my arse and made me rethink the people in my life, the way I do business, and the way I show up.

I didn’t embark upon this journey away from my boys and two fur babies to waste my time and not achieve everything I set out to do.  My boys are watching, and for me, that is the most powerful call to action I will ever have.

So I invite you, right now, to consider when the game changes for you, what will that look like? What would need to happen for you to take action like never before? And can you simply choose to take that action now, before it’s too late?

And as always, if you want to have a call with me to see what’s possible, then all you have to do is click on this link and book an appointment.

And if you are a woman who wants to dive in and take action right now, sign up for the Phoenix Rising: 21 Day Challenge which has just been lauched.

It is designed with the focused and driven woman in mind who wishes to alchemise a certain idea into reality, whether it is a new business, a community project, a house move or a global movement.

Maybe you are recently single and need to create a new vision for your future, whatever you want, this 21 Day Challenge is guaranteed to get you moving, provided you play full out and show up for yourself each and every day.

It’s already proven to create EPIC results in the lives of the women who have taken part, and the lives of those who these ladies are working with.

So again, I ask you, think back to when the game changed for you last time and consider what was it that made you finally take action?

Are you going to allow yourself to go there again, albeit it in a different way, or are you going to take action now?

 

Tell me what to do

Ever said to someone “You can’t tell me what to do!”, or at least thought about saying it?

Hmmm, me too.

It’s the rebellious streak in me; you too probably.

It’s been one of the most powerful drivers in my life.

I have broken all the rules this last week when it comes to having an online business.

I didn’t write a blog post, didn’t write any articles on LinkedIn, and didn’t put out any offers to my audience.

And in times such as we are facing globally with this COVID-19 ‘outbreak’ this could be seen as business suicide, or simply respecting people.

But I can tell you, it was neither.

I have been researching and writing a biography for an incredible lady who I have just started working with. 

Her story is inspiring, and I am honoured she has chosen to work with me so she can share her story with the world.

I’ve been having some powerful coaching myself, releasing some deeply buried trauma and beliefs which have been holding me back in life.

For some, the idea that I have been held back is non-sensical, and somewhat scary; because if I have been held back, then what on earth have they been doing!?

But what on earth does any of this have to do with being told what to do?

Well, getting organised on the 10 Week Mastermind I am currently taking part in and getting present to what’s needed for the next level of my business, I have noticed a lack of ‘call to actions’ and ‘freebies.

Give aways for you all so you share your email address with me, an exchange of powerful and inspiring content for your email address.

An email address I will then use to let you know of exisiting and future content; a fair exchange.

And here’s the thing… you knew there was one coming 😉

I am someone who never pays attention to the calls to action.  I don’t need others to tell me what to do.

I don’t do what others tell me to do, I do what feels right for me.

I also know the tricks behind the freebies and don’t want my inbox filled with emails I am never going to read.

Being ‘manipulated’ into giving over my email address in exchange for a freebie I am most likely never going to get around to using, and then have a sales pitch given to me at the end, is also not my bag.

But are we really being manipulated to hand over our email address? No, not really; and it’s not like we are all being held to ransom with a gun to our heads either.

We freely hand over our email addresses to those who we know give value, and I know I give a lot of great value in my content.

Yep, it’s all written content; I am an author, writing is what I do.

If people want my recorded content, then there are plenty of live interviews and podcasts out there with me in them.

I have a huge library of video content, and as I build my team, I am getting present to just how much gold there is in my content; and how much of a positive impact it has had on 10,000’s of people.

So the time has come for me to start sharing this content with the world even more, start increasing the number of people on my email list, and make sure they are getting the content they are looking for.

Like I said above, I have never been big on responding when people tell me what to do, not even doctors.

I challenge the thinking of everything, and not to be difficult, but because I am a curious person.

I want to know how things work.

I like figuring things out.

I am a puzzler, so is there any wonder I am a coach and do the work I do, and read the books I read?

I’ve learnt to keep my social circle small, and yet highly efffective and increasingly profitable.

During times like these with the COVID-19 hysteria facing the world,I have questionned what is really going on, on a much larger scale.

Everyone is being told to stay indoors, and so many people are resisting it.  They are resisting being told to stay indoors with the family they have chosen for themselves.  

Parents are resisting being at home with their children, something I really don’t understand, esepcially as I love being with my children. 

And part of the inner work I have been doing over the last few months is getting present to the fact my boys will never come and live with me again.  Yes, they will stay with me, but they will never live with me again.

They are making different choices for themselves the older they get, and part of me has regretted starting this journey so early on in their lives, but I had to.

Like my youngest says “Mummy, you just got to go do you”.  Wise words from such as young man and just how much of it is he really able to truly understand? Only time will tell.

Understanding this realisation, and then going on to ask what is truly possible for me, my business and future has opened up a lot more possibilities for me.

What is truly possible for any of us? 

None of us like being told what to do, but then so many of us allow others to tell us what to do.

Religion, society, the military, the governments, partners, parents and choices our inner child made based on limited information we had as children.

Our 6 and 7 year old selves are ruling our lives, and yet many of us are not aware of it.

We rise up against governments, the police and justice systems, against corruption and we resist the rules others made up for us.

“They don’t know me, so who are they to tell me what to do?” is something both you and I have said many times over, and not just inside our own heads either.

Watching the world go by outside my window, pretending to go to the shops with their shopping bags and just walking around the block as many times as they can, obeying but breaking the rules set by the Argentinian Government, has been amusing and an interesting obsevation of human bahviour.

Seeing governments and police forces implement and issue fines and jail sentences to those who go against the governments instructions has reminded me of the Egyptian Uprising and the Scotland Saga in so many ways.

Dictatorships are on the rise, and due to the fear of the COVID-19 virus, a lot of people are just simply accepting what the governments are telling them to do.

Thankfully there are those such as The Mental Mastery Alliance and Steve McNamara who are challenging thought patterns and delivering content outside of the normal realms of thinking.

Many of us thought leaders don’t need others to tell us what to do, we just get on and do what we feel called to do, hence why adding a call to action has always felt alien to me.

I have never needed someone to tell me what to do, I just know what I need to do and get on with it.  I ask for what I want.

If someone puts out an offer to share their content and I want it, paid for or free, I let them know I want it.

How many of you ask for what you want? How many of you are good at telling people what you don’t want?

What about the boundaries you have set in place; if you have any? 

Are they the boundaries, pacts, promises and choices you are making now, or are they from your childhood, your teenage years, or even your early twenties?

Do you even know?

Are you curious to find out? If you are then I am going to invite you to contact me about the programmes and coaching I offer.

As of next week, many of the programmes I have been offering on a 1:1 basis will be released as automated courses, meaning I can serve more people around the world, and respond to the variety of budgets and time schedules people have.

It also means I can focus my energies on writing the next three series of books I am writing, as well as launch my long awaited Leadership Mastermind.  It’s been 20 years in the making, and now feels like the right time to launch it.

Spending a week working ON myself and my business rather than being IN it, has given me a lot of clairty.  I may have broken all the social media rules, but they are not my rules, so not important.

And as I tell my boys “smart people don’t follow stupid rules”

OK, so some of the rules are not stupid, but may do not apply to us, and it does allow them to explore the rules they are being asked to follow and choose for themselves.

I will leave you now with these questions to explore:

  1. Which of the rules I currently live by apply to me?
  2. Have they ever applied to me?
  3. Can I be the person I wish to be by following these rules?
  4. How are these rules positively impacting my purpose and humanity?
  5. What rules am I consciously choosing to live by moving forward?

Let me know how you get on with them using the contact form  if you wish to, and remember, when we live to laugh and laugh to live, we get to release all the things holding us back in life.

So go live your life, go laugh until your belly aches, and live life on your own terms.

You’ll be glad you did!

Ciao for now x